When is the Right Time to Talk to Your Kids About Sex?

How Do You Discuss The Birds and The Bees

by Adeola Adeyeye
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a mother and daughter - talking to kids about sex

As parents, it’s natural to want to protect our children from the realities of the world for as long as possible. However, when it comes to sex education, delaying the conversation with your kids can actually do more harm than good. Educating your children about sex at the right time can help them make informed decisions, navigate their changing bodies, and stay safe.

So, what is the right time to educate your kids about sex?

The answer to this question varies depending on your child’s age and level of maturity, but experts agree that it’s never too early to start the conversation. In fact, many children begin to ask questions about sex and reproduction as early as age three or four.

At this young age, it’s important to provide age-appropriate information that is simple, factual, and free from judgement. For example, you might explain that babies grow inside their mother’s uterus and are born through a special opening called the vagina. You can also introduce concepts like consent, privacy, and body boundaries in age-appropriate ways.

As your child grows and matures, it’s important to continue the conversation and provide more detailed information about sex and sexuality. Experts recommend that parents start talking to their children about puberty and the physical changes that come with it around age eight or nine.

This can include information about menstruation, erections, and wet dreams.

When it comes to discussing more complex topics like contraception, sexually transmitted infections (STIs), and relationships, experts suggest waiting until your child is in their early teens. At this age, they will have a better understanding of these topics and be better equipped to make informed decisions.

It’s important to keep in mind that sex education is not a one-time conversation. It’s an ongoing dialogue that should be tailored to your child’s age, maturity level, and individual needs. Furthermore, being open and non-judgemental helps create a safe space for your child to ask questions and share their thoughts and feelings.

In addition to talking to your child about sex, it’s important to model healthy behaviours and attitudes around sex and relationships. This can include setting boundaries, respecting consent, and practising safe sex.

In conclusion, the right time to educate your kids about sex is when they start asking questions and showing curiosity about the topic. By providing age-appropriate information, being open and non-judgemental, and modelling healthy behaviours, you can help your child make informed decisions and stay safe as they navigate their changing bodies and sexuality.

2 comments

Ifeoluwa Ayodele April 3, 2023 - 7:02 am

This was a good read.
I wish our parents knew the importance of sex education back in those days, maybe things would have been a lot better lol*. Nevertheless, this is an eye opener for parents to-be and new parents to do this the right way and keep their children informed about the reality of a changing body and sexual desires.
Thank you for this content!! Topics like this make the world a better place.

Adeola Adeyeye
Adeola Adeyeye April 4, 2023 - 11:03 am

Thank you for your positive feedback Ifeoluwa! I believe it’s never too late to educate ourselves and future generations on the importance of sex education. By doing so, we can help create a more informed and responsible society when it comes to matters of sexual health and relationships. It’s great to see that you recognise the value of this information and the impact it can have on individuals and society as a whole.
Thanks once again for taking time to read through.

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