Do you want to be more interesting? Do you want to impress your current circle of friends? Or do you want to attract new friends? Whether you’re looking to make new friends, impress your boss, or attract a romantic partner, being more interesting is a surefire way to improve your social life. Here are a few things you could do:
Fill Your Brain with Interesting Things
If you want to be interesting, you have to fill your brain with interesting things. Think of it this way: whatever goes into your brain is what will, eventually, come out of your mouth. As the cliche goes, you cannot give what you do not have. Read, watch classic films, go to museums, subscribe to interesting blogs and podcasts, and listen to great music. The more cultured you become—the more high quality input you stuff yourself with and the more knowledge you acquire, the more interesting things you’ll have to say.
Learn Something New
Learning is essential to our existence. Just as the food we eat nourishes our body, learning and information nourish our minds. Learning is an indispensable tool for any ambitious individual. Learning something new is a great way to jump start a new chapter in your life while also helping you develop more confidence in yourself. Even small steps like taking a class, signing up for an activity, or going to a meetup can add some excitement into your life while also helping you feel like a more interesting person.
Be a Good Conversationalist
A person has to enjoy taking to you. For you to do this, you need to have genuine interest in people. During your conversations, adopt a forward-thinking mentality. Less complaining, more solutions. Less judgment, more empathy. Relax and loosen up around people. People who believe they’re boring tend to be tense, nervous, and awkward around other people, constantly worrying about what other people think of them. This makes it harder to open up and be yourself around others, and therefore impossible for them to actually get to know you. By relaxing more around people, your conversations will feel less forced, more natural and connecting will become easier.
Be a Good Listener
There are a lot of people who like to talk about themselves, about what they have done and about what they have not done, about their health, ideas and so on. If you always speak about yourself, people will deem you selfish, people will get fed up with your egocentricity and would avoid you. Conversation is a two-way activity. A person, who dominates the conversation, might feel good about it, because he or she attracts all the attention, but he or she might be avoided the next time. When you are a good listener, you will be appreciated by the people whom you talk to, people will feel comfortable confiding in you, and your relationships with people will be more harmonious.
Learn to be a Good Storyteller
You do not have to learn the technicalities of storytelling. Just tell simple stories, at the right opportunity. People find stories interesting. Think of the right time and opportunity to tell the right story. The opportunity will come naturally. Do not force it. Do not exaggerate, or tell lies, your listener will be able to spot untruths. Allow for feedback as you speak, do not the the talking by yourself. Ensure your story is interesting, if not the idea of story telling will be counter productive.
Smile and laugh as often as you can
Smiling and laughing are contagious. People want to be around a happy person. Your positive energy will attract people to you. Smiling often conveys openness, acceptance, and even trustworthiness. When you genuinely smile at people they feel more comfortable engaging you in a conversation. Smiling makes you more approachable and easier to talk to. It also signifies that you’re interested in speaking with others.
Bottom Line
To be a more interesting individual you have to feed your mind with knowledge, have good communication skills, and earn to be cheerful. In addition, be happy with who you truly are. Accept that not everyone will find you interesting, or even necessarily like you. This can, in turn, make you more interesting to the people who actually respect your unique sense of self.
