Love these days feels like a fading phase. It seems much easier to fall in love that to stay in love. That is why there are so many loveless marriages. Hence, while many relationships thrive and are truly happy, a number experience strain. Perhaps one or both spouses entered the relationship with high expectations but lack the skills that are necessary for a long-term relationship. When people first become close, they feel as if their partner were the only other person on earth who sees things as they do. That feeling sometimes fades, and when it does, it can take a heavy toll on the relationship. Let us consider a few of the factors that in some cases have caused love to fade.
Disillusionment
Many movies, books, and popular songs paint an unrealistic portrait of love. While single, a man and a woman may feel that they are experiencing a dream come true when they date; but after a few months together, they conclude that truly they must have been dreaming. Of course, some expectations are entirely proper. Yet, even these wishes may go unfulfilled.
Incompatibility
Usually, it does not take long for two people to discover that they are not as much alike as they seemed to be when the relationship just began. Relationships often showcase characteristics that the partners had managed to hide from themselves throughout their single lives. As a result, some may conclude that they are completely incompatible. Despite some similarities in taste and personality, most people enter a relationship with major differences in style, habits, and attitudes and do not know how to reconcile those differences.
Conflict
In relationships, disagreements are inevitable. But when the arguments happen too often it can become a problem. Especially if it happens in the heat of anger and in a destructive fashion, as an attack on the spouse’s character. When this happens, the conversation is a battleground where viewpoints are defended with grim determination and words are weapons instead of tools of communication. This can cause love to fade, and it seems your partner is an opponent instead of a lover.
Apathy
It has been said that the true opposite of love is not hate but apathy. Sadly, though, some spouses become so accustomed to a loveless relationship that they give up all hope of any change. Disillusionment, incompatibility, conflict, and apathy are just some of the factors that may contribute to a loveless relationship. Some other factors include Money, parenthood, deceit, and sex.
