The after-effect of bullying is THAT experience that countless people can relate to. They can come from immediate family members, strangers, colleagues, school mates even mentors. Basically, bullying can come in any shape. Could be words, actions or condescending looks.
Recently, I had the “pleasure” of talking to that one person I could barely forget. He had made such a mark in my life that I could not let go of the memories.
A lot of people think that physical bullying has a lot more effects than the rest but it’s the same thing, in reality. You know, you do not have to hit the people around you to hurt them. And that’s a fact.
He had seen me first and apparently, he thought it was a bright idea to say “hi, how are you doing?” He seemed nice. I held that tiny conversation because I wanted to know what kind of person he had become.
It was then I realized that he did not remember anything. He had grown up great and had a stable life with his physical and mental health intact but I was struggling a little to get over that “tiny” encounter I had with him.
The bullied never forget. True. Bullying can happen in the “littlest” times. So much that some people would not notice. That’s how little it can be. It can also be “grand” because how can it go unnoticed.
While your feelings of hurt and oppression are valid (no one should make you feel like they are not), you would get a lot more hurt when you realize that these people live very great lives while we do the hurting.
This just means that sometimes karma works and they would get what they deserve but most times, they do not. When you’re about to let those memories take over and spoil your day, remember they’re living freely without anything stopping them from flourishing.
You should flourish too. Butterflies make the garden look beautiful. I think the world would look much more beautiful when you feel limitless and happy.
