Rape is a growing threat, thousands of women get raped every year. A person’s best defence is to be aware and prepared. Not every rape situation can be anticipated. However, knowing how rapists think and plan their attacks may help you recognize warning signs. Parents of teenagers especially also need to discuss rape prevention with their children. Being specific about dangerous situations because the majority of rapists and rape victims are young can further help.
The best way to avoid a rape situation is to avoid rapists. You should be aware of a pattern of behaviour in a man—even one you know well—that may identify him as a potential rapist. Some men will use a woman’s style of dress or her willingness to be alone with him as an excuse to rape her. While a woman isn’t responsible if a man holds such views, she would be wise to recognize such attitudes.
Be Cautious
Furthermore, don’t be in isolated environments with a man you don’t know. Do not allow unknown people into your home. To avoid problems in dating situations, date in groups or with a chaperone. Know your date well, and set firm limits on the amount of physical intimacy, if any, you will allow. Be cautious about drinking any alcohol! You can’t be alert to danger if your thinking is impaired.
Act Quickly
Not all rape situations can be anticipated. You may find yourself alone and facing a man who is stronger than you and who is intent on forcing you into sex. Act quickly, and remember your goal is to escape. A rapist often tests his victim before deciding to attack, so it is important to derail his plans as soon as possible before he gains enough confidence to act.
Fight Back
You need to realize that this attack is premeditated, and the rapist is counting on you to submit. Get angry, not afraid. Your fear is an attacker’s most powerful weapon, an expert notes. Women who have successfully resisted rapists usually did so actively and tried more than one tactic, including biting, kicking, and screaming. Additionally, if you are unable to fend off the rape, concentrate on being able to identify your assailant later. If possible, scratching him or tearing his clothing will leave blood and fabric evidence with you.
Remember, no two situations are alike, and no prevention advice is foolproof. Even rape experts disagree on how much and what kind of resistance a victim should put up during an attack. The best thing to do is to try to avoid situations where you are alone with a stranger. Everyone should be a suspect including relatives.
