Finding love can be a tricky business, but it’s even harder when you suspect that someone only has their eye on your bank account.
Gold diggers — people who prioritize a partner’s financial worth over their other qualities — are a real problem in the dating world, and it’s important to know how to identify them. If you’re worried that a girl you’re seeing is only interested in your funds, keep these six signs in mind.
1. She never offers to pay for anything
While it’s nice to treat your date to dinner or drinks, it’s a red flag if you’re always the one putting down the credit card. If your date never offers to pay for anything, it could indicate that she’s not interested in contributing financially. Gold diggers are often more concerned with getting money from their partner than sharing experiences with them, so watch out for a lack of empathy or generosity.
2. She asks for expensive gifts early on
One of the earliest warning signs of a gold digger is that they demand lavish or expensive presents right from the start. If you’ve only just met someone and they’re already asking for designer bags or luxury vacations, be wary. A genuine connection shouldn’t be based on material goods, and someone who’s interested in getting to know you as a person isn’t likely to make money the focus of your relationship.
3. She’s obsessed with your income and possessions
It’s perfectly normal to be curious about someone’s financial situation, but if your date seems more interested in your spreadsheets than in your personality, it could be cause for concern. Someone who only wants to talk about your job, your car, or your bank account may not truly care about you as a person.
4. She only goes out with you in places of luxury
If your date only wants to be seen in the city’s most expensive restaurants or clubs, it could mean they’re more interested in the status that your money brings than in spending time with you. Gold diggers often prioritize social status over intimate connections, so if your date seems more interested in being seen with you than in getting to know you better, take note. A good way to test this is to suggest meeting somewhere low-key or unconventional. If your date resists, it could be a sign that they’re not interested in a genuine connection.
5. She’s secretive about her own finances
While it’s true that some people don’t like discussing their finances, a lack of transparency could also be a sign that your date has something to hide. If she seems evasive or vague when you ask about her job or income level, it could be a sign that she’s not financially independent and is looking for someone else to support her. This is particularly concerning if combined with any of the other signs on this list.
6. She’s quick to jump into bed with you
While it’s not true that all gold diggers are women, many women who focus on finding a wealthy partner will prioritize sexual attraction over other factors. They want to be with you because of your resources rather than your personality and feel entitled to it as they think you’re “obliged” to provide for them. So, if your date is too eager to jump into bed with you without you guys getting close enough to know each other, it’s time to consider if you’re being used for your resources.
In summary, it can be difficult to know for certain whether someone is interested in you for your money alone. However, by staying vigilant and being aware of common warning signs, you can avoid getting involved with a gold digger. Keep an eye out for entitlement, materialism, and a lack of generosity — and don’t be afraid to trust your gut. A genuine love connection is worth waiting for, even if it takes a little longer to find.
