Back in the day, parents had some control over the knowledge their children had, depending on their age and need. They could be sure that at a certain age, their children had no knowledge about sex, so they could be the first to talk to their son or daughter about it. However, that has all changed. Children are being undoubtedly exposed to sexual messages at increasingly early ages, and the sexual content of children’s media is on the rise.
However, parents are advised not to lose hope. There is a difference between having knowledge about sex and using that knowledge to make wise decisions. Parents can teach their children what they should know about sex. See what you can do:
Get Involved
Firstly, no matter how awkward it may be, talking to your children about sex is your responsibility. Accept it. There is no longer the quick definition of sex—partners having intercourse. Now, there is oral sex, anal sex, cyber sex—even sexting over the phone. It may be awkward talking about such things, both for you and for them. But it is well worth your effort.
Have Small Discussions
Additionally, instead of having one big talk, take advantage of casual moments to communicate, perhaps while the two of you are travelling in your car or doing a chore. To help your child open up, ask viewpoint questions. Get them involved in the conversation. Do not speak to them in a judging tone. This might not allow them to open up to you.
Keep It Age Appropriate
Lastly, preschoolers can be taught the proper names of the sex organs, as well as how to protect themselves from sexual predators. As they grow, children can be told basic facts about reproduction. By puberty, they should have come to understand more fully the physical and moral aspects of sex. Start teaching your child—at an early age—about honesty, integrity, and respect. Then, when sex is discussed, you have a foundation to build on.
Above all, do not make it sound like sex is a sin. This might even tempt them to want to try it out. Tell them the consequences of unsafe or premarital sex, and advise them on what is most appropriate. If your children value your advice, they will try their best to heed it. If they make mistakes, do not condemn them. We all make mistakes.
