How people grieve and the choices they make during and after this period is a topic that is heavily discussed. This means that people always seem to have opinions on how people should react to only peculiar circumstances.
The reality that is well known is « grief is a deeply personal and individual experience.» How many people can experience grief in the absolute same way?
When people are finally open to talking about how they feel or have felt, at least one person will say, « I can relate to how you feel or felt.» Relating does not necessarily mean « the same,» does it? It’s empathy.
Can people say they are sympathetic with words but in action? It’s very different. It’s straightforward for individuals to dictate how others should react in their time of grieving, and sometimes, it lacks basic emotions and even empathy.
When people lose loved ones, lose a job, or can not get a job; anything you can think of, they should be allowed to feel and express themselves in whichever way they feel.
Grief should not be gender-based, you all. There should not be a limit to which gender can express themselves. But, of course, I’m referring to people who say things like «Men should not cry » or « You’re a man, act like one.»
It also should not be opinion related. People « shouldn’t » act as society wants them to when hurt. Because feelings are valid and differ widely, they can never be precisely the same.
That an individual can take so much pain and hurt without breaking down can never mean that another person’s feeling of hurt or pain is not significant.
People shouldn’t tell people how they should react. Instead, let’s be there for them. Because everyone matters the most❤️.
