One of the causes of anxiety in people is the fear that they may fail to make themselves look interesting to others. You must have noticed that there are certain individuals that attract people to themselves more than others. These people have certain traits that the average person does not have. So if you want people to be interested in you, there are four things that work for me and can work for you too
A lot of people struggle with being present and genuine when talking to others. Start being attentive and show genuine interest in people’s thoughts and feelings.
We are interested in others when they are interested in us- Publilius Syrus
Keeping eye contact with someone is the quickest and easiest way to show someone you are actually listening to them. Studies show that not holding eye contact can have a completely opposite effect, making you seem rude, untrustworthy, and uninterested.
Ask Deeper Questions
Most people get asked the same boring questions repeatedly. Try to ask discerning questions that will keep the conversation going. Ask smart questions that will steer the conversation in a positive direction. Don’t be pushy. And try not to cross your boundaries.
Really and Truly care.
How do you develop the personality trait of caring? It can be difficult, especially in an age of social media where everyone is dangerously close to being a narcissist. Caring is an act of setting aside your own interests and ambitions for a while and helping others. It requires effort. You have to consciously decide you are going to care about someone else. When you do, and you are genuine about it, you’ll find that more people will like you.
Admit your Weaknesses.
Admitting weaknesses makes you more likeable. People figure them out on their own anyway. Of course, it’s important not to act like a victim or share your problems with everyone you meet. At work, it’s okay to go into a meeting and lead with the challenges you face. People are more likely to suggest a few solutions, come to your aid, and even pat you on the back.
Conclusively, always be yourself. Don’t try too hard.