Life coach Solomon Buchi has sparked controversy by claiming that “sexual compatibility” is a misleading concept in pursuing an ideal sexual partner.
Buchi argues that focusing on “sexual commitment” is critical to building lasting and fulfilling relationships in a social media post.
According to Solomon Buchi, the notion of sexual compatibility encourages a never-ending quest for partners who can outperform previous sexual encounters. He suggests that this mindset often leads individuals to engage in promiscuous behaviour, ultimately seeking porn stars as potential spouses. Buchi boldly asserts that sexual compatibility is nothing more than a buzzword promoted by the forces of evil.
In Buchi’s view, what truly matters is sexual commitment, a quality he believes is exclusive to marriage. He argues that commitment ensures satisfaction and fulfilment in both the emotional and sexual aspects of a relationship. Buchi highlights that evaluating potential partners based on the sinful experience of premarital sex is inconsistent with seeking a Godly marriage from a Christian perspective. He cautions against the sexualization of marriage and partners, attributing it to the destructive influence of lust.
While recognizing the importance of sex within a marriage, Buchi criticizes the impatience associated with the concept of sexual compatibility. Buchi equates sexual desires with lust and argues that genuine sexual commitment involves duty, pleasure, and room for growth and vulnerability. He notes that unrealistic desires arising from pornography stem from disobedience to God’s teachings. Furthermore, it can hinder the development of a genuine and wholesome marital relationship.