Are you considering visiting your partner’s family anytime soon? Does the thought of it feel nerve-wracking? Meeting your partner’s parents for the first time can be an intimidating experience, but with a little preparation and consideration, you can make a positive impression. Here are some dos and don’ts to keep in mind when meeting your partner’s parents for the first time:
Dos:
Dress appropriately
Make sure you dress appropriately for the occasion. If you’re unsure what to wear, ask your partner for guidance.
Be polite.
Show respect and courtesy to your partner’s parents. Say “please” and “thank you,” and offer to help with anything that needs to be done. It also helps to not be too anxious with them. Little nerves are okay but being overly anxious will inadvertently affect how well you can relate with them. For some tips on how to manage anxiety in social settings, click here.
Ask questions
Show an interest in your partner’s family by asking questions about their hobbies, careers, and interests. This will help you get to know them better and show interest in their lives.
Bring a small gift
Consider bringing a small gift as a token of appreciation. The gift ideas for a Nigerian family could range from wine, traditional Nigerian attire, and food item(s) to an artefact.
Be yourself
Don’t try to be someone you’re not. Be authentic and true to yourself, and let your personality shine through.
Don’ts:
Don’t be late
Make sure you arrive on time or a few minutes early. Being late can give the impression that you’re not serious about the relationship or don’t value their time.
Don’t bring up controversial topics.
Avoid discussing controversial topics, such as politics or religion, unless they bring it up first. These topics can be sensitive and may cause unnecessary tension.
Don’t monopolize the conversation.
Remember to listen as much as you talk. Don’t dominate the conversation or interrupt others when they’re speaking.
Don’t be disrespectful.
Show respect and courtesy to your partner’s parents, even if you disagree with them on certain topics. Don’t be rude or dismissive, as this can create unnecessary tension.
Meeting your partner’s parents for the first time can be nerve-wracking, but by following these dos and don’ts, you can make a great first impression. Remember to be yourself, show respect and courtesy, and let your personality shine through. You can build a strong and positive relationship with your partner’s family with a little preparation and consideration.
