By now, you’ve probably heard this before: You can’t control others or your circumstances, but you can control how you react to them. And so it is with the world of work. What do I mean by that? Well, in order to get what you want out of life and your career, there are three key elements: confidence (self-assuredness), technique (skilful decision-making) and desire (loyalty towards your goals). In other words, having these three key elements at your disposal is a great advantage on your side.
Understand what you want and be specific.
Now that you’re clear on what you want, it’s time to get specific.
Be realistic: You can’t expect to achieve your goals if they’re too far out of reach or beyond your current abilities. The same goes for the other way around—you can’t expect someone else to fulfil a need if it isn’t within their power or willingness. So be clear about what you can do (and not do) and how much time, energy and resources are necessary for success.
Know the difference between wants and needs: When someone asks for something from us, we often hear ourselves saying “I’d love” right off the bat before realizing there might be some reasons why we shouldn’t give them whatever they want right away; maybe they’ve been asking us for months now but haven’t done anything else besides ask again!
Don’t let your past hold you back.
The past is the past. You can’t change it, so why should you let it hold you back?
Don’t let your past define who you are and stop you from moving forward in life. Be confident in yourself and know that everything happens for a reason, even if it’s not perfect or ideal at first glance (and oftentimes it isn’t).
You have to learn how to forgive yourself for what happened in the past but also move on from there by making better choices with regard to relationships, career goals etcetera…
Get people to listen to you.
The first thing to remember is that you have to be assertive. It’s not easy, but if you can do it well enough, people will respect your confidence and listen to what you have to say.
The second thing is that when asking for something, always use polite language and avoid being rude or mean-spirited in any way whatsoever.
Thirdly, be direct! You don’t want anyone thinking about whether or not they should give in (or even give anything at all). Instead, simply state what exactly it is that would make them happy – no more no less; just say ‘I’d like this’ or ‘I’d love this’ instead of trying to convince them with long speeches full of fluff words like ‘I’m sorry’ etcetera.”
Speak with confidence.
Whenever you speak, you need to speak clearly and slowly. You should be able to hear yourself in the mirror, so use a firm voice that is loud enough for others to hear you clearly. Use positive language when speaking about yourself and your goals; this will help you feel more confident in what you have to say. If possible, practice your speech in front of a mirror until it becomes second nature for you!
Once again, Speak with confidence!
Make room for your Priorities.
Don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your priorities. Don’t worry about what other people think about you or how they perceive you, because it will always be different from your own personal opinion.
Reflect on your accomplishments frequently.
Think back to the accomplishments you’ve made in the past and celebrate them. Even if you don’t feel like it, take a moment to acknowledge what you have achieved so far in life—and learn from these experiences. If there are things that went wrong, reflect on them too: what could have been done better? How can I improve myself or my work so that I am better equipped to handle similar situations in the future?
If someone has challenged you or criticized something about yourself or your actions, take this opportunity to reflect on how they were right and how their feedback will help improve things moving forward.
Don’t forget about yourself! Look at who else has contributed towards making these changes happen for us over time (family members, friends). Was there anyone else involved? How did they influence/support each other along the way too?
Dream big, but start small.
You can’t be afraid to start small. If you’re afraid of failure, don’t go for it right away. Take your time and build up your confidence until you feel ready to take the next step. The more you practice, the better you’ll get at doing things yourself.
Don’t be afraid of asking for help if needed! Sometimes people will have no idea how best to help or what they should do – but this doesn’t mean that they don’t care about helping out with whatever problem you might have (or even just making sure that person feels welcome). It may seem like a lot of work at first – but remember: even with all these tips in mind and plenty of experience under our belt now (and then), none of us was born knowing what we needed from life; we learned along the way through trial-and-error until finally arriving at where we are today which may look different than where everyone else started off their journey towards success!
The importance of self-confidence.
Self-confidence is the foundation for all other skills. If you don’t have confidence in yourself and your ability to achieve your goals, then it is very unlikely that you will be able to get what you want from life or from relationships.
Communication and persistence are two skills that are often overlooked by successful people but which can make all the difference when it comes down to getting what we want out of life, whether that be a promotion at work or a new relationship with someone special (or even just a job).