Saying sorry or better still “I’m sorry” goes a long way, quite all right. But I’m very sure I’m not the only first who’s wondered “is sorry really enough?”
It is true that knowing how to apologize at the right time or not is the right attitude to life. A person who avoids saying it would probably go around, severing ties with everyone they know. Why? Because friendships are never too perfect and human beings aren’t either.
Watching or being cautious of the words we speak or say to people is sometimes overlooked. We say so many hurtful things when we get annoyed or emotional. So much so that when you then apologize, wouldn’t it be awkward or weird?
I know what you’re thinking,
“What matters is that I apologized”.
Yes, that matters very well. But I can’t help but wonder if we’d held onto our words a little bit, in that heated moment, wouldn’t it be all better?
Don’t get me wrong, you do need to stand up to people all the time. It also doesn’t mean you should let other people walk all over you because you want to control your words. It just means that maybe controlling your temper can solve most of the broken friendships and relationships out here. It’s important to maintain self-control and I know that sometimes, it takes sheer willpower to do the right thing.
I’ve come to realize that words aren’t erased when we apologize and we feel more hurt instead. Thoughts like “I can’t believe he thought like this all this while” come through.
Apologizing doesn’t erase memories, either.
Even if we know that apologizing does not guarantee forgiveness. Doesn’t it hurt to lose a good friendship when it could have been controlled? Personally, I think walking away and talking about it when everything’s cooled down is much better. Then, you can say everything you want to say without letting emotions control us.
Of course, I’m not saying we shouldn’t get angry or argue when we feel like it. Have you ever thought about it, though? Is sorry always enough for you?