Marriage like other meaningful relationships has its good and not-so-savoury times. These outcomes are largely a function of the effort (or lack of it) put into it by both partners. It is the desire of individuals in marriage to experience a good and healthy marriage as the direct opposite could have deleterious consequences for both physical and mental health, just to put it lightly. It is therefore pertinent for both partners to invest in their marriage by continually nurturing the love and affection between them.
Do you feel like your marriage has stalled? Have you stopped investing in growing a relationship that is fulfilling for both of you? Are you trying to figure out how to save your marriage from divorce? Are you wondering how to reignite your passion towards your spouse?
Here are some tips that could be of help.
Maintain good Communication.
The key to a great marriage is communication.
It’s hard to stress how important good and effective communication is in marriage. If you are offended by your spouse, how be it, try to keep the doors of communication open. Speak up, and never assume that your spouse knows you are offended or play the “blame game”. What might be obvious to you, might not be noticeable to others! Communication vis-à-vis dialogue sets the tone for forgiveness in times of disagreement. It also enables a couple to bond and grows in love. It is one of the, if not the most important ingredient of a healthy marriage.
Learn to Forgive.
To err is human and to forgive is divine”
Disagreements are natural and almost inevitable any time there are two or more people involved in a situation. When you have two people living together, going about normal human activities, there is bound to be a misunderstanding. The stakes for this are even higher in marriage considering the intimacy of their union in marriage. An understanding of the need to forgive, avoid malice and let go of hurt, especially after apologies is important. Everyone makes mistakes. In a marriage, we should be able to admit wrongdoing and offer apologies, as well as be quick to forgive ourselves and our partners. Then, it’s time to find a pathway forward, without harbouring grudges, because that resolves nothing.
Uphold Respect and Honesty.
Don’t take your partner for granted. Imbibe a habit of gratitude towards your spouse irrespective of the magnitude of their effort towards the expression of Love. Always be truthful and honest. This is pertinent for a healthy marriage as a paucity of it can result in unpalatable experiences, consequently an unhealthy marriage.
Remember, it’s been said that, laughter is the best medicine.
Life in and of itself can make every little thing seem mundane and monotonous. As a married couple, you should be able to share silly stories or simple jokes to decrease the stress and tension of the daily grind. Try it and see if this improves your daily mindset and moves you closer to salvaging your marriage.
To read more tips for a healthy marriage, click here for part 2.