How Can I Get Over a Break Up?

by Frederick Akinola
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A man crying - getting over a break up

A break up can crush your joyful disposition and replace it with tearful despair. Breaking up may be one of the most traumatic experiences you’ve ever had to endure. In fact, some have said that a breakup is like a mini-death.  You go from denial to anger to depression to acceptance. You go through a roller coaster of emotions. But the good news is that you can reach the acceptance stage. How much time it will take to get there depends on a number of factors, including how long your relationship lasted and how far it progressed. In the meantime, how can you cope with your heartbreak?

Moving Forward

You may have heard the saying, Time heals all wounds. When you first break up, those words might ring hollow. That’s because time is only part of the solution. To illustrate: A cut on your skin will heal in time, but it hurts now. You need to stop the bleeding and soothe the pain. You also need to keep it from becoming infected. The same is true with an emotional
wound. Right now, it hurts. But there are steps you can take to lessen the pain and keep from becoming infected with bitterness. Time will do its part, but how can you do yours? Try the following.

Allow Yourself to Grieve.

There’s nothing wrong with having a good cry.  Shedding tears doesn’t mean you’re weak. You need to allow your body to release the pain that you feel.  Holding back your emotions can cause actual pain.  So, it is good to cry. When you’re done crying, you will surely feel better.

Take Care of your Physical Health

Physical exercise and proper nutrition will help replenish the energy lost as a result of the emotional toll of a breakup. Try not to starve yourself because you’re sad. You may lose your appetite, but try to eat and stay hydrated. Stay active, exercise.   Keep up with physical activity, as this can help take your mind off the break up.

Keep Busy.

Don’t stop doing the things that interest you. And now, more than ever, don’t isolate yourself.  Associating with those who care about you will give you something positive on which to focus.

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