Conceding defeat is not easy. No one ever wants to lose, no matter what. It could be a sports game when your football team loses. It could be in politics when your preferred candidate doesn’t win or it could be a financial loss in business. Whatever the case may be, if you retrospect on the last time you suffered defeat, you’re probably not proud of how you reacted. What do you think you could have done to handle the situation better?
Focus On Any Positives
Try not to focus on what did not go well. Think about what went well. Think about areas in which you made improvements, and how that can be a plus for you in the future. For example, if you lose a football match, you could reflect on the performance of your team and the areas in which they performed well. After that, you can now analyse how to improve the overall performance. Even though you lost, you still probably learned some great skills along the way. Think about your potential and how far you have come; you are definitely not the same person as you were when you started.
TAKE RESPONSIBILITY. DO NOT BLAME OTHERS
The easiest thing to do after defeat is to blame others. Try not to scapegoat anyone. When handling defeat, always take responsibility. Do not act like the world owes you something. Do not blame your coworker, the economy, or the competition for your failure. The sooner you can accept your defeat as your responsibility, the sooner you will be able to learn from your mistakes and move on. Be sportsmanlike. If you find yourself in a losing situation, don’t trash-talk the winner or the other team. Instead, congratulate them on a job well done.
Continue to work
You can deal with your defeat by continuing to work at and do the things that give your life meaning. Do not wallow in self-pity because of defeat. As said earlier, think about the positives. Continue to work hard. Your efforts will definitely pay off.